Dateable Ideas

Having coffee is always safe. It is a better option if you would rather meet her than pick her up. It is simple and states that you respect her and want to take the relationship slow from the beginning. You are in it to get to know her, and she appreciates that.

Pay for her coffee! She may feel like she should pay for her own because it is a casual atmosphere and you didn’t drive to her house and pick her up. Pay anyway. It is the right thing to do and she will think highly of you.

Also, serve her. If the coffee shop is one that calls out your name and doesn’t serve their guests, be sure to do that for your date. She will appreciate your gentlemanly behavior. Don’t be lazy and get up to take her coffee to her.

Pick a nice coffee shop that has art displayed or live music playing, not your local pick-up-a-cup-and-go. It shows you are comfortable with the slowness and comfort. It will give a good impression.

Lead the way to a place to sit. Find a table with two chairs by a window or at the edge of the room. You don’t want to be right where everyone enters and or is ordering.

If a couple of your friends walk in, don’t stop and chat with them. It’s likely that they will come over and want to talk to you. Just say hello, introduce your date, thank your friends for saying hello, and get back to you previous conversation.

Dress nicely but casually. No raggedy tee-shirts or paint-splattered shorts. Have on a nice polo or button-up shirt. If it is fall or winter add a sweater. And wear a nice pair of jeans.

Engage her in conversation. Ask her questions about her work, her family, and her interests. Don’t start off the date with you prattling on about yourself. Wait until she asks you questions in return.

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