Dateable Ideas

Think that a dinner date is too cliche? Here’s a way to make it original.

Being tactful in choosing a restaurant for your first date may be a little difficult. In considering your options think about a few aspects of your scenario. Is this is a woman you just met or is she was a good friend before asking her out? How did you meet her? Was it through your best friend, in a bar, at work, or by accident in a park? Think about how much you know about her already. Did you talk for five minutes, five days, or not at all? Is she a shy woman? Is she loud and rowdy? Is she classy and rich? These are all things to consider when picking a restaurant and other activities.

First, think about your previous encounters. If you have known her for a long time then it will be easier to plan this date. You don’t have to be as particular in where you go or what you do. If you have met her recently or don’t know very much about her, it will be more difficult.

You also need to think about how to act around your date. Whether you should talk a lot, be classy, or don’t worry about impressing her.

You then need to think about what you do know about her. Is she quiet, outspoken, sophisticated, earthy, mature, childlike, sweet, or sassy?

Quiet: If she is quiet take her to a place that will draw her out. Pick a place that is friendly with good music, a comfortable easy atmosphere, and not too expensive. Remember, it needs to be easy for her to be drawn out. Go to places like Olive Garden, Johnny Carino’s, or good steakhouse. Be careful about what you do on this date. She needs to know that you are caring and gentle. Before talking about yourself ask her questions to get her talking. Listen and observe to know what to say.

Outspoken: If she is very verbose go to a restaurant that is fast-paced and with lots to look at. It should have fast service and friendly people. Try to keep the price down on this one. Go to places like Chili’s, Applebee’s, or a Mexican restaurant. On this date just be yourself. If she talks that much she can handle almost anything you say. Make sure you do some talking too! Don’t be afraid to tell her any crazy stories.

Sophisticated: If she is sophisticated go to a more expensive restaurant with high-class food and wine. Dress up for this date. Choose restaurants like Cottonwood Grill, The Melting Pot, or Macaroni Grill. Make sure to act like yourself but with a classy flair. Be a gentleman and get the door and her chair for he. Ask her about herself and then talk about yourself. But don’t talk too much.

Earthy: Is she down to earth and relaxed? Pick a place that is comfortable and has easy food. Old Chicago, Red Robin, or Baja Fresh are good choices. They are laid back, low priced, and encourage lots of chatting. On this one don’t worry about impressing her. She is most likely to forgive almost anything.

Mature: A mature woman is usually easy to please and expects more respect than other women. Choose a place that shows her your respect like Macaroni Grill, a high-class steakhouse, or The Cheesecake Factory. She is usually a combination of sophisticated and down to earth. She knows a lot but is still casual. Be real with this woman. Don’t be so intimate to frighten her, but add a little more of your heart to this date.

Childlike: If your date is childlike there are more options open. She will like any restaurant you go to, but might be frightened or intimidated by fancy, expensive ones. Pick a place like Chili’s, Red Robin, or a good Mexican restaurant. She may be also quiet or loud. Be alert and notice other things about her. She will probably want to be known and liked. Learn a lot about her interests, her family, and her dreams.

Sweet: This girl is easy to please, but don’t take advantage of her (emotionally or physically) and don’t take her for granted. Take her to a nice place like Cottonwood Grill, Olive Garden, or the Cheesecake Factory. Get to know her as much as possible on this date. Ask about her likes and dislikes, her dreams and aspirations, her family and friends. She will probably be a people-person and want to know about you too. Be honest and strong. She will like a man who can stand up for her and do anything for her.

Sassy: This girl knows what she wants. She may be a little tricky in capturing, and once you have her, hard to hold. Take her to exotic restaurants, ones with bars, and anything to keep her busy and interested. Be sure she doesn’t trample on you in conversation and emotions. Try to be stronger than her also in conversation and emotions. Be attractive and engaging. Tell her something interesting about yourself and ask about hers. She will probably have lots to say.

After all these considerations still be yourself, be aware of your girl and what she likes, make pleasant conversation, ask her about herself, and be there only to get to know her. Don’t be occupied with yourself or friends you may see. Have continual respect and interest in your date.

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