Dating After Years of Marriage
Think of an activity that she loves and you hate. Make sure it is something she knows you hate and then form a date around it.
If you plan to go to the zoo, make it a whole day with a picnic or lunch at a restaurant on the patio. Spend as much time as she wants with all the different animals. Don’t be in a hurry because that will ruin it.
If she loves to go boating, rent a boat and go cruising on the lake. Take lots of snacks, and if you want it to be really romantic go out at night and bring wine and candles. If she loves water skiing or wake boarding do that too. And if you have never done it, try it. Even if you aren’t any good at it, she will appreciate that you are trying to learn the things she loves.
Maybe it would be hiking. Fill her pack for her, don’t complain when you get tired, and take an interest in your surroundings. There is nothing better than a husband who takes an interest in his wife’s hobbies.
Was going to the tea shop something your wife has been begging you to do? Do it! She will love you to death. It is not unmanly to go have tea with your wife. It shows you care. When you are there don’t scoff at the other ladies and their dress or the lacy decorations or the dainty proportions of food. Take your experience seriously and at the end tell her what a great time you had (if it’s true, of course).
Remember, it is all about her. Do whatever she wants and be happy about it. After many years of marriage you may get into a habit of just thinking of each other as just people and not the one you are in love with. Use these ideas to bring that romance back into your lives.
March 4th, 2009 at 3:25 pm
If i had a husband i would like to celebrate in a romantic place that brings good memory!!
March 4th, 2009 at 7:01 pm
Good suggestion on the tearoom date. Men who won’t go to tearooms haven’t discovered that TEAROOMS ARE ALL ABOUT DESSERTS! I was actually introduced to a tearoom by my husband, who had been there with a college friend.
March 5th, 2009 at 10:04 am
know what ?? I ‘m gonna make my husband reading this !!!!
nice suggestions !
March 11th, 2009 at 9:42 am
We play the “Left/Right” game. We choose a night when we have all the time in the world, make sure my diabetic husband has a “snack” with him, and then jump in the car. We take turns deciding whether to go right, left, or straight at each intersection until we come across a restaurant we’ve never been to before and that sounds interesting to both of us. It can be lots of fun and take us to neighborhoods that we haven’t be to for a long time.
March 11th, 2009 at 3:35 pm
What a great topic!
We just had our 30th anniversary. We had to cancel the party because one of us had recent surgery, and we just couldn’t afford it.
We did “go away” but only for one night… ended up at a run-down motel with no TV, no phone. But fun anyway. (but maybe I’d better poll the other half).